Then they want a mom they can have sex with.

Then they want a mom they can have sex with. It's as gross to me that some men want that as it is normal to so many women to strive to be that. Build your partnership with your spouse however you see fit, but I strongly feel that unless there is an extenuating circumstance every person needs to know how to be self-sufficient - and don't forget to teach this to your kids regardless of gender!