I find it gross when a married person...

Maybe it's just me, but I find it gross when a married person (outside of the context of speaking to someone who might not know who this person is to you) calls their spouse "my husband" or "my wife" almost exclusively instead of by their name.  This is something that has annoyed me for years both IRL and online, so it's directed at no one in particular.

But to y'all who do this:  Does marriage mean that you now posses that person and they are no longer worthy of having a name as an individual person?  Or are you just trying to make sure that everyone knows you got someone to marry you?  🤣🤣🤣  For real tho, it's like a little kid with a new toy.  We know, we see it, now please go and play with it somewhere else for a while.

It goes for other family members, too.  I don't walk around saying "my son" when referring to Shadow because generally speaking friends and coworkers know that he exists.  He is a person with a name, not something that I view as a belonging.  I don't even think I've legit said out loud to anyone that Shaun is "my fiancé" because he is still Shaun regardless of anything else.  If someone was unclear I would say that we are engaged, but if I am speaking to friends, family, or coworkers, then they probably already know and there would be no confusion when using his name.

Maybe I am just weird and I read too much into things.  I feel like words are powerful, though, and I'm always questioning things.  I mean, not using someone's name seems like a slight against their person-hood or individuality.  I never wanted to be called "Mom" but between family, daycare, and school, that is what happened.  I'm not mad about it, but I'm far more than "Mom" and I'm far more than "someone's fiancée" or "someone's daughter" or "someone's sister" or what have you.  I am definitely no one's possession.  Establish our relationship to your new audience once then proceed to call me by my name again.

I think with marriage it might be particularly upsetting to me because of how much of it throws back to a time when women were treated as objects.  I mean the traditions of being given away, of only the women being marked with engagement rings, etc.; that whole deal is just icky to me.  So repeated possessiveness in relationships really rubs me the wrong way.  And unfortunately, I don't view it as women taking it back to say "my husband" all the time... it's just the flip side of the issue to me and still no less an issue.

Ok, so that's a ramble.  I am home sick from work today.  I woke up and started barfing so I've been trying to take my mind off of how terrible I feel by thinking, I guess.  😂  There are far worse ways to pass the time, I suppose.  If you have differing opinions or different views I'm open to discussion.  I won't be on here constantly because I feel like crap, but I will definitely check in and respond.

Anyway, for all of you married folks that haven't forgotten your spouse's name, y'all the real MVP's.  ❤  I like how you do.  😃