Shaun buried his last parent today. We're doing ok, all things considered. It rained all day so our plan to be able to social distance at a graveside funeral didn't work out, but we'll quarantine to make sure we didn't catch COVID. Mostly we're exhausted, and there is still a ton to do. Thankfully, nothing urgent at this point.
These last few weeks have been so extremely hard. It's hard to see a person suffer. It's terrifying to watch someone's health decline with such speed. It's a helpless and hopeless feeling to know that there is not anything you can do to stop anything that is happening.
If there is one thing I've learned from this experience it's that keeping a binder or drawer of IMPORTANT paperwork related to your eventual death would be so helpful for your loved ones. We are definitely planning to get things in order for our kids, like, now. The stress of finding all of the info that a funeral home requires, knowing if / where / how there are funds to help with burial expenses, etc., would save a lot of stress. Put vet records, house deeds, car titles, advance directives, and the will in with this. Add accounts, what they are for, what things mean. Have a paper saying where the septic tank is. Write down relevant family history that is usually seen in obituaries. All I know is that when I die it's going to be hard enough and my final act of love towards my kids is going to be that I made my death as easy as possible for them. There is really no reason not to do this, so please, DO it.
And with that, we're off to rest. Goodnight, friends.
